~Eye-Magi-Nations Creations~
...& The Infinite Exploration of Love, Life & Self
~*~ An Exploration of Various Alter-Native LifeStyle's~*~
The myriad dance through pages in time,
the myriad dance through my myriad mind.
The myriad me through whose Eye i sea,
the myriad me whose come to Be.
Natures breath upon my face,
Natures breath for me to taste.
To be alive and feel the cool brisk air,
to be alive and feel Her cold dark stare.
Giving birth to life with each breath We take,
giving birth to life through the Love We make.
i go within the myraid me,
make love with Divine and Dance with the Sea.
2008
Alter-Native Thots
In Our thots on "Alter-Native Lifestyles"....don't We ALL lead alternative lifestyles? Are not All of Our Lives an 'Alter-Native' to One anOthers? The way We understand it...We do not live the same 'Lifestyle' as the guy down the road...nor does he live within my 'Lifestyle'...so really, We EACH live an 'Alternative' lifestyle to One anOther.
Even amongst those living in what the normal perception of "Alternative" there are more and more "Alternatives" to be had or explored or discovered....so again....this is just a Term or Definition that lays more 'lines of seperation' when We are seeking to achive Oneness here through Our understanding of One anOther and Our "Lifestyles".
But then again...without even broaching the topic of "Alternative Lifestyles" and exploring 'them'....then coming to this particular juncture and question and understanding wouldn't even be possible. So Hopefully.....One Day...there wont need to be a discussion on the "Alternative Lifestyles" because We will have come to the expanding understanding that We are ALL Living in an "Alternate Way" of One anOther and simply accept that as the way it is!
Just some thots....
~In Peace, Love & Service Of~
Props in Life
Props in Life
How we chose to live or play the game is up to us. We believe this is where Free Will comes into play as long as everything we do remains in the Name of Love....as long as we are not out to bring anyone harm. Really, what does the way One choses to play the game have to do with some one else? If One is Truly living as an "Open Flow of Unconditional Love & Acceptance of All That Is"....then they wouldn't be affected by it all...it would just flow on past you as you viewed it openly. Maybe something flowing by might strike up your interest or intrigue you and maybe not. But it is some one elses "props" that just flowed by. If they caught your eye or intrigued you, you might check into acquiring a few similar props of your own that you're comfortable with or interested in. Then they are your own props to try a new game.
Exploring Through Music
Most All of Us feel the power of music...lyrics...everything that it holds for us. We've always felt that music is immortal...keeps us immortal...and can totally relate with "Phantom of the Opera"...wow...what an AWESOME movie.!!
Mysticsm
We were reading an article in a magazine and they got to talking about Mysticism,
“Mysticism is the taking of more and more into your field of vision until there is nothing left outside–not even the one who is looking. Something like that.”
The one asking said, “But surely no one could be in such a place all the time?”
“Correct. It’s like breathing pure oxygen–you’d die of old age in ten minutes. Kabbalists explain it like this. There are two modes of being, if you will, two worlds. There’s the World of Separation, this one we inhabit most of the time, with this myriad array of discrete, finite, and seemingly independent parts, each with it’s own name, location and if it’s human, it’s own agenda. Then there’s the World of Unity, a radical monism, where there are no parts, no boundaries, and no names. There, everything is all one, or more accurately, everything is the One. But the World of Separation abides within the bosom of the World of Unity….”
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Our Thoughts:
The article goes further into a great analogy and discussion…but i’m going to stop right here and put down some of my thoughts on “mystical experiences & subspace/slavespace”….and how parrellel they really are. We’ve had many, many mystical experiences…”Highs”…just from mediations. Some of them have been experiences with sexual energy and orgasm…some have just been the High that one experiences when One with the Divinity within and Ones Higher Power. Some of my most memorable and Spiritual of experiences have been with The Mate….when We're Making-Love…when I'm getting flogged…when The Mate is meeting Self needs and says "Thank You Mother Nature", because it was through the Divine.
We agree that to “live there”…in that space…in that energy….w/could be the death of One. But We also know that it FEELS like death when One is not present with that energy. It is such a double edged sword that we dance on. The tip is ever so tiny….the balance at times feels like the worst stabbing pains…but ever so blissful ones at that.
God/dess knows that we need to “come down” and catch our breath and rest up for the next flight to take place….but the “rest” is spent re-membering….and wondering what we did “wrong” to be cast from such a beautiful light and feeling of nirvana!! Not realizing…the “rest time” isn’t a form of punishment…but our reward as much as anything.
Having rode the waves of the Universe for this many years now…you’d think We’d have it all figured out by now! lol Again…We remind Our Self that this is where ‘Awareness” steps in and is Our best friend. For We are now aware that everything passes….we wax & wane and go with the ebb & flow of the Universe…it is simply up to us to become the “Master of Self” in how we react to and ride these waves as we all unfold to the All & One that we are. It is only then that we can best be of service to those around us and the Grand Universe that we live in.
For Us…”slave space” and “mysticsm” are One in the same. As acclimated as We have become to “living” in this space, as We slowly ride Our way up the “Tree of Life”….We am able to stay there a little bit longer and a little bit longer all the time. But still…”the fall” is inevitable….it is all in how “graceful” one handles the fall.
2007
Exploring Through Dance
We have a Friend that can relate with many of the sensations and much of the 'head space' that We speak of from time to time, through Her Own experience with Dance...specifically the "Tango". She shared her experience through a Poem She wrote that We asked if We could share here through Our Explorations of Alter-Native LifeStyles...as in Our own perception...this is yet anOther Alter-Native Expression of The One & All Experience with LOVE!
Thank You to Andrea for such Beautiful Sharing & Expression!
Close Embrace
Drawn like moths to tango’s flame, consuming, never burning,
Lured by sultry siren song, compelled by deepest yearning,
Swept in an eternal tide, eagerly returning,
Playful and platonic, or passionate and tender,
We come, each one, to share a gift of intimate surrender.
As a rose unfolds in moonlight, our hearts expand and flower;
Shallow judgements stripped away by this transforming power.
We build and fill a sacred space, connect as lovers do
In generously requited love, unfettered, deep and true.
Exhilarating movement, borne on flying feet,
And then, suspense, expressive pauses, sensual and sweet,
Like a lovely stolen kiss, caressing brush of thighs.
My overflowing heart spills gentle joy into my eyes.
As the music pauses, my gaze is drawn to you;
In wordless understanding, our tryst is made anew.
You come to me, dear one, and walk straight into my heart,
Enfold and hold my naked soul as the music starts.
At its throbbing warm insistence, we embrace and, in our trance,
For these timeless, precious moments, there is nothing but the dance.
copyright 2005 Andrea C Atwood
All rights reserved
The "Healthy" Submissive
1. The healthy submissive is capable of, and thrives on, intense, intimate, emotionally open relationships. This is often evident in the number of nourishing, sustaining, and life affirming friendships she makes over the years.
2. The healthy submissive is a giver. She often needs help to ration herself because her impulses nearly always lead her to want to do good for others.
3. The healthy submissive is capable of intense joy, especially in the context of a sustaining relationship.
4. The healthy submissive finds significant relaxation when properly related. She is at ease in that place.
5. The healthy submissive has finely tuned interpersonal sensitivity. She is reactive to subtle shifts in the emotional tone of others.
6. The healthy submissive has a fluidity of self, a flexibility that enables her to adapt to changing circumstances.
7. The healthy submissive is playful.
8. The healthy submissive has no more than the usual cultural conflicts about her body, and its goodness and beauty.
9. The healthy submissive takes pride in her accomplishments.
10. The healthy submissive accepts herself as she is, knowing that while her culture values independence and self sufficiency, she has strong dependency needs and that there is no inherent "wrongness" about those needs.
11. The healthy submissive seeks nourishing relationships.
12. The healthy submissive, in accepting herself "as is" is tolerant of others. But neither will she allow anyone to tell her what her truth should be.
13. The healthy submissive has a reasonable self concept, aware of her difficulties as well as her strengths.
14. The healthy submissive hunger is to be the object of an intense and penetrating understanding. When her nature is understood and she is held in a loving and firm frame, her devotion is almost limitless. The healthy submissive has an enormous capacity for devotion, from which springs her service.
What are some "Alternative LifeStyle's"?
Some activities considered adult alternative lifestyles include, but are not limited to:
1. BDSM: This stands for Bondage and Discipline (B&D), Domination and Submission (D&S), and/or Sado-Masochism. and/or slave & Master (S&M). As the definition suggests, BDSM involves bondage, that is restraining or being restrained, domination as well as submission, Sadism (taking pleasure in inflicting pain on another person) and masochism (taking pleasure in being subjected to a certain degree of pain) and/or the deeper mental/emotional 'relationship' between slave and Master.
2. Swinging: This can be defined as a form of recreational social and sexual activity between consenting adults whereby partner swapping is acceptable. Swinging is also referred to as "wife swapping", but this definition is inaccurate as it narrows down the activity and makes it look like a male domain. "Partner swapping" may be a simpler but more accurate description.
3. Sexual Fetishism: The arousal and/or gratification through some object, or non-genital part of the body. Such object or body part is referred to as the fetish. Fetishes include but are not limited to shoes (boots or high-hills), feet or digits of the foot, hair, underclothes or lingerie, body piercing, clothing (size, garment-type or size), stockings, etc.
4. Polyamory: This is the practice of having more than one intimate relationship at a time, with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. In polyamory there is no partner swapping, as opposed to swinging where swapping is the norm, this is a common misconception of Polyamory relationships. Polyamorous relationships are usually serious and long term.
Why do people pursue Adult Alternative Lifestyles and relationships? The answers are as many as the individuals. But one that tends to go across the board is- you guessed it- fun. Another reason is fulfillment of sexual fantasies.
It is not uncommon for alternative lifestyles to overlap. For example, at a swinger's party (an alternative lifestyle), one person may be getting a body part pierced (a fetish), a man may be receiving a spanking while restrained in chains (BDSM) from a woman in leather garments and boots (dress or shoe fetish), while a polyamorous trio (an alternative lifestyle) may be joined by another couple for a sexual activity. Although these examples are not always the case, but one of the common threads is the "Respect" of one anothers "Lifestyle choice".
Thinking of exploring your alternative, fantasy or fetish? What's stopping you...?
Healthy/UnHealthy
i was doing some reading around in the web this morning and ran across this that i'm going to post. It's some great information and excellent also for pointing out the UNHEALTHY forms of "Dominance" for those of also in a more "Alternative" Lifestyle (such as D/s).
As i was reading through this i could see so much of my past in these words...both from the standpoint of the "submissive" as well as some nasty 'shadow games' that have played out from time to time through-out my life.
i was able to see the me that fell for my ex-husband...i was able to see the me that has had tantrums for 'lack of attention'....i was able to see many form with which i have been on both sides of these particular forms of control & ego games.
For those of us that do take a more Alternative route in Living....i have to say that we begin seeking this Lifestyle for one reason....but for those of us that are True in Self and True Seekers...it ends up taking on a whole'nother kind of Path that leads us deeper into self than we could've ever possibly imagined and we learn more than we ever thot we would/could or even wanted to!
At any rate...i thot this really was great to also use as an example of the UNHEALTHY forms of "Dominance & Control"....
Enjoy!!
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This phase is about learning and recognizing energy exchanges, personal energy awareness and increasing personal power and mastery over oneself by identifying 5 Life Dramas. This Wisdom is the core information about energy exchanges and dynamics of people's interactions.
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We had learned in the 2nd Wisdom about emotions and illusionary layers of life's experiences. When we are aware of emotions and the roles they play, we can then transfer and trace that awareness to a variety of causes. This Wisdom introduces the reactionary energy influences within our lives. These principles are also the key building blocks and core issues for the self development exercises which are to follow in the remaining Wisdoms.
Why The Control:
From a psycho-spiritual perspective, control stems from the lack of remembering one's connection to the Universe, one's true being of Unconditional Love. In other words, the pain of subconscious separation manifests as wanting more energy to make up for what is perceived as missing. It also should be noted that the more one feels this sense of separation the more controlling and angry a person is. Their life force may be perceived as dark and may be what is called a "lost soul" in this lifetime. This is merely their "spiritual lesson" to learn as you have your lessons to learn.
Society also influences and parallels the degrees the control is translated into. Behavioral awards of more money, higher job status, better houses, faster cars are material possessions that become spiritual compensations. This is not to say all achievements are due to a person lacking spiritual qualities. However, material items are noted as being spiritual compensations in some situations. For example, there are many high powered business executives and those in authoritative positions who have achieved "it all" and at some time they have an epiphany of a higher spiritual nature: "Who am I? What is life all about? There is more to me than this." Thus, the spiritual awakening begins.
"Life Dramas and Taker Types"
There are people whose main source of power comes from the energy reactions of those around them. Upon further in depth analysis, some people have adapted dual traits to cope with an energy depletion of one drama style. Some "Takers" have learned that if one form doesn't work, another will. "Takers" continuously create reactions as outlined in the following Life Dramas.
Enforcer
Is one who gains control by using physical or verbal force thus obtaining energy by this means. For example: Typical of spousal abuse situations, work force tactics, positions of authority.
Makes one feel bullied, angry, fearful and disgusted.
Criticizer
Gains control by judging and questioning, a criticizing of actions, circumstances and people. For example: A friend, spouse, parent that criticizes your judgment, clothes, actions all the time.
One feels helpless, confused, disoriented, breeds lack of self-esteem, belittled.
Avoider
Gains control by not speaking, avoiding the situation, coy. For example: A complaining friend that does not want to talk about it after bringing it up.
One feels exasperated in communicating, anger and hopelessness.
Complainer
Gains control by wanting pity from others. The person likes to dwell in self-pity and has lack of self-esteem. Nothing is adequate in life. For example: Whining all the time about being sick, lack of money, family members never around etc. Wants things done or brings attention to something by complaining.
One feels pity for person, comforting, "poor thing" syndrome.
Pleaser
Gaining control through accolades in attempting to please everyone or someone. The person may be a perfectionist or domineering because they lack control in other areas of life. Constantly pleasing and doing for others such as: cooking, cleaning, tiptoeing for perfection to the point of self-harm
One feels a sense of duty and guilt by "owing" something to them for all they do.
The following dynamics appears to be prevalent in family relationship where habits, patterns and coping skills are learned from childhood. One can trace the life drama(s) backward to parents, grand parents and great grandparents. This dynamic will be explored more in the 6th Wisdom.
Avoiders create Criticizers
Criticizers create Avoiders
Enforcers create Complainers
Complainers creates Complainers
Pleasers creates Pleasers/All Above
The first four Life Dramas are pretty straight forward however, the Pleasers are one of the more complex and mutable of the Life Dramas. They become the submissive figure in a parental relationship and children typically take on the behavior and life drama of the other parent or if they become masters, become Pleasers themselves. Pleasers assure everything is done perfectly with an unhealthy doting of always doing for others at the risk of dis-ease of mental-emotional discomfort of themselves or others. They extend and overindulge others at the expense of themselves. Sometimes they rule their job, house, family in their self-imposed perfection which is inflicted upon others. Pleasers use their deeds and actions as pre-payment of anything that should arise to keep control over others. This drama style is to gain energy through excessive practice of getting others satisfaction and abnormal sense of self imposed perfection.
Examples would be:
"If I don't keep the house spotless, he/she will leave me."
"If the laundry isn't perfect, he/she will leave me."
"If I don't make more money, he/she will leave me."
"I've done everything for you, and you want to leave!"
"If I do all this for him/her, she'll owe me later"
"My house and everything in it is perfect in every way."
You may think on one level this drama style borders on obsessive-compulsive behaviors, however, the defining line is that Pleasers "choose" to do their actions rather than feel compelled to. For the most part medically speaking, there are no brain disorders or neurological or systemic abnormalities in Pleasers as with those diagnosed with OCD. There is an underlying motivation to their actions whether they are conscious of it or not.
Since pleasers over-indulge others due to their always giving attitude, they may be abused by an unequally energetic person who is more dominant which in turn they gain the energy they need by pleasing.
We should remember that "Takers" may operate on an sub-unconscious level and not know what they are doing, then there are those who do know what they are doing. The focus here is on being aware of the Life Dramas in our lives and own personal power in dealing with them.
The "Takers" get the energy they are needing from others to satisfy what they are lacking. By identifying what type of emotional energy the person is needing and recognizing the signs one can therefore enact a tactic to shift the energy. In this energy circle, one has to realize the attraction of falling into the categories listed above as well recognizing others' energy styles. Once this is realized then you can disengage and reevaluate your position and how You act and react. By understanding how this dynamic works you bring forth the conflict (s) to the conscious mind. Always be aware what is going on and what it is that hooks you into the drama and why you may hook others into yours.
Something to be aware as well, if you are in touch with your body, it will tell you by creating sensations that you are competing for energy. You may feel absolutely drained and tired after a conversation or encounter with a person. Your head or stomach may hurt. You may even be exhibiting some of the same emotions of that person as a "negativity bug". Also working in reverse, you may feel terrific after talking to someone. If this happens, it's not all inclusive of being a "Taker" but it is something to be aware of. The way out of it is to identify what is going on within you and identify your place between interactions.
When encountering those that drain you, it may help to say along the lines of "I feel stuck and confused as well" or "I love you but you keep criticizing me is there anything else that is bothering you?" I have found that when you ask, "what else bothers you?" it immediately diffuses the situation. By doing this you are giving them the attention they need but not giving into it. However, there are limits that one must gracefully exercise.
"Soft Bubble of Light"
An effective method to deal with the 5 Life Drama types is what I would like to call a "Soft Bubble of Light." An example: While talking with aunty, she goes into the "Complainer" attitude that everything is going wrong. Sympathy for the situation is nice, but tactfully changing subjects or focus in a positive manner is a way to neutralize the "Complainer" attitude. Being tactful and graceful on the phone or in person works as well. I've learned a neat little trick when running into people who need that emotional energy. In the mind's eye of compassion, simply surround them in a bubble of soft white light. Accompany this with tactful statements such as "I understand it must be tough. What does Marge think of it?" "Speaking of Ed, how is he doing these days?" "I just ran across the same the thing, it must be catching." Humor and sincerity has a way of magically diffusing any situation and shift the energy considerably.
This technique of a soft bubble light also applies very well to the workplace. For instance, before an interview, while in a meeting, or when the person arrives in the office with any range of emotional attitudes, imagine in your mind the bubble of light around them. If someone is non-cooperative, whining, controlling or angry you will definitely see a change in behavior. Whatever the emotion is in the workplace there is always a root cause. We may not always know what that is, but we can make conscious changes in our own thoughts which translates into actions. Not only are you changing your energetic thought forms, you are also changing the energy around you, which is infectious so to speak.
The "Soft Bubble of Light" seems to satisfy the energy the aura needs and does not come from "you" for it flows freely from the Universe with loving intent to naturally equalize the situation. It works very well! The results are truly amazing. The important thing is that you project loving thoughts toward others therefore sending them positive energy they need, but do not fall into it. Stay centered and be willing to walk away when you get hooked (for example, constantly trying to convince someone). It is important to recognize how the other person wants to control your energy. When you finally realize this, daily interactions will amaze you. You can't help but smile at the wonderful energy the Universe provides when it's sent with the intent of love, understanding and awareness, not anger or fear.
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Now that we have learned some background information of "Takers" and some awareness and diffusion techniques. It's time got get to work and expand on your personal development notebook. Remember to be honest with yourself!
Criticizer, Enforcer, Avoider, Complainer, Pleaser
Analyzing your place in the Life Dramas: 
Which category do you feel you mostly fall under? Do you see yourself in a second drama, which one? Which category do you feel you least fall under? List 5 people you know into the Life Drama categories that you think they fall into. With each person using key words ask, Why am I bothered when they do that?
Now time to ask the serious questions: What are my reactions to each person? Why do I react the way I do? What from my past has taught me these reactions? How can I change my reactions and to what will my reactions be? What do you think the person is lacking in his/her life to make me uncomfortable? Can I counteract the persons requests, demands, emotions and manipulations in a more positive manner?
Each person has a life history with volumes of experiences. We may not know what motivates a person but, again, it's not about others entirely. We have an opportunity to use our awareness of energy interactions if we choose to. Speaking tactfully and with confidence helps in keeping the energy balanced. I can only change myself - not them.
One part of self empowerment is learning and recognizing energy exchanges, the truly transformative part, and one of the hardest tasks, is changing our reactionary behaviors. Behavioral scientists have recognized it is not what happens to you but how you react to it that determines your mental, emotional, and physical well being. By embarking on this stage of awareness, we increase our personal power by mastering oneself. Since emotions play strong roles in our daily interactions we can train ourselves with positive constructive methods to change our responses to external circumstances.
Parental relationships are mirrored in other in relationships. Every situation has a message. Recognize synchronicities. A reactive behavior within the body determines energy levels. Verbal discomfort. Remember, a told truth that you lived in childhood? Ask for help. You don't have to solve the situation alone.
What is Polyamory?
Polyamory??
From the "PolyOrlando" WebSite. W felt as tho this gave a really good 'description' of the term "Polyamorous" and clearing up some possible common 'misperceptions' of "Polyamory" itself:
Introduction
Polyamory (pronounced "pä-lE'a-mrr E) is being called the New Relationship Paradigm. People everywhere are questioning the long-standing idea that love must be limited to a single individual. Is it possible to love more than one person at a tme successfully? Many people are asking this question, and some are pleasantly surprised to find that it is possible. Polyamory will not work for everyone, but there are many people in the world who are simply not compatible with the monogamous lifestyle. The members of that small group of people are beginning to reach out to one another, and seek support, friendship, and love.
Are you polyamorous? What is the most important thing in life? Read on, and learn more about what polyamory means, how polyamory is practiced, and even communicate with other polyamorists, you will find both answers within yourself.
What Polyamory Is Not
Polyamory is not swinging.
Polyamory is not about recreational or promiscuous sex. Most Polyamorists are not promiscuous people. Swinging is defined as recreational sexual activity, also called "sport sex" where partner(s) or participant(s) agree to have casual sex with each other(s). There is usually no emotional involvement as in polyamory. Swinging is a form of monogamy in which usually two primary partners agree to have casual sex with other couples or singles. Swingers have their own organizations, newsletters, and contact networks. They are not likely to find much of an interest in polyamory except by coincidence. The polyamory and swing communities are allies under the alternative lifestyles banner. Many swingers have transitioned to the polyamory way of life through their desire to be emotionally committed in a multipartnered relationship.
So, are polys "swingers"? Pali Paths of Hawaii answers this question with the following, which we think is an excellent explanation:
"Polyamory is about close intimate personal relationships rather than casual sex, and poly groups do not hold sex parties or serve as pick-up clubs. Polys vary a good deal in their attitudes toward casual or recreational sex, though most polys are sensuous, adventuresome people. Still, many swingers may find that polyamory is a natural step onward in their relationship path, carrying them beyond recreational sex to multilateral intimacy."
Polyamory is not polygamy.
Polygamy is the practice of having one dominant man with many wives and potentially more children. Polyamory is about allowing fully equal respect and freedom of the heart and soul for all partners allowing intimate love of others without domination in ownership or jealousy.
Polyamory is not a group, sect, or cult.
It is not a group, sect, or cult asking Polyamorists to isolate themselves from their loved ones or asking them to follow a specific dogma or doctrine. It is not about your family member isolating themselves away from their family of origin but about expanding the family.
OK, So Just What is Polyamory?
Polyamory means "loving more than one". Polyamory is the conscious espousal of more than one concurrent adult loving relationship which incorporates the agreed-upon option of sexual intimacy. It is the nonpossessive, honest, responsible and ethical philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultaneously. Polyamory emphasizes consciously choosing how many partners one wishes to be involved with rather than simply accepting social norms which dictate loving only one person at a time. Polyamory is an umbrella term that integrates traditional multi-partner relationship terms with more evolved egalitarian terms. Polyamory embraces sexual equality and all sexual orientations towards an expanded circle of spousal intimacy and love. Polyamory is from the root words Poly meaning many and Amour meaning love hence "many loves" or Polyamory. Of course, love itself is a rather ambiguous term, but most polys seem to define it as a serious, intimate, romantic, or less structured, affectionate bond, which a person has with another person or group of persons. This bond usually, though not necessarily always, involves sex. Sexualove or eromance are other words that have been coined to describe this kind of love. Other terms often used as synonyms for polyamory are responsible, ethical or intentional non-monogamy.
Polyamory is about reality in human nature. People, by primal nature, are truly non-monogamous. If you study the first societies of the world, and 86% of Earth's cultures today, even the Old Testament of the Christian Bible, you will find the basic concepts of Polyamory practiced in loving relationships on many levels.
Polyamory is about total honesty and openness in relationships. Most monogamous relationships end in divorce or break-up due to cheating or jealousy. Polyamory allows mutual lovers to be honest and open about passions, desires and/or needs that differ from their significant other... and allows each person to explore what they need to be complete and happy. So, is loving someone a good reason to stop loving someone else? Polyamorists don't think so!
Polyamory is a self-awareness and understanding that every person has a right to be totally free, including the heart and soul, on issues of love and passion. It means giving the person you love the freedom to share themselves intimately with others as they desire, on an emotional, intellectual, spiritual and/or sexual level, based on the guidelines that you and your partner(s) agree upon.
Polyamory is a lovestyle and is a way of life.
Polyamory is a lovestyle and, as a way of life, is about taking the road less traveled. Polyamory is about community, honesty, ethics and about learning unconditional love. Polyamory is about future family models and the belief that human beings have the ability to love more than one person intimately in a committed, sustainable, multiple relationship. Polyamory is about maturity and overcoming our jealousies.
Polyamory is about committing ourselves to a group of people and purpose(s) that we identify with and love to be with. Polyamory is about mutually sharing one life with a group of people whom we believe in and identify with. Polyamory is about living a wholesome, healthy and responsible life. It is about leaving a foundation behind for other humans to build on when our era has past. This includes those that have consciously chosen to practice monogamy. Polyamorists, like most other minority groups in the world, face bigotry and discrimination in their lives by people who would choose to dictate how other's should live their lives.
Polyamory encompasses a broad spectrum of lovestyles ranging from near the edge of swinging on the one end of the spectrum, to polyfidelity at the other, which is much like monogamy except with more than two people involved. But in all cases, it involves emotional relationships among more than two people. In some poly relationships, some of the partners have no sexual relations and are typically "V" relationships. Poly is clearly about emotions and feelings above sex, but this author is not not aware of any purely spiritual poly-family. This authors own poly ideal is a filled triangle leaning toward the polyfidelity side of the spectrum. Poly is a concept rather than a method. Our own poly-mind finds its root in the concept, but its application is specific to us, adapted to the beliefs of each of us. The success of a relationship is dependent upon each member's willingness to adjust his/her beliefs with the others' beliefs.
Are We Ready for This?
We are here. We live among you, and have, some of us, for many years and you have not known us. We are among your close friends and valued parishioners, but there are essential things about who we are that you probably have never known. Unless, of course, you are one of us yourself.
Submitting & Committing
Submitting & Committing
Before one can "submit and commit" to another, you must first learn to submit and commit to yourself. One might 'commit' to a Spiritual Path, one might 'commit' to going on a diet, one might 'commit' to finding a new job, one might 'commit' to quit smoking, there are several things that one might 'commit' themselves to doing for self improvement. But do we ever 'submit and commit' our selves to discovering who we are and loving our self unconditionally? Do we ever commit our self to “allowing our self to “be”? Do we ever commit our self to accepting our self no matter what we might find? Do we ever commit our self to allowing self expression freely? I know that I’ve said this before several times…but if we don’t Love & Accept our self…the good, the bad and the evil…then how can we expect anyone else to? Do we not have to “submit” to our own desires before we can learn to control them? And to learn to control them, we must first learn what they are and freely allow our self to express them. To do this, we must then submit & commit our self, in some form, to another….this is part of learning to “Let go”.
But the overall process is first submitting and committing to our own self and accepting that we are “worthy” of this experience and freedom. Then the process of submitting and committing and accepting that we are “worthy” of another Loving us enough to go through this whole process with us….and still be there in the end. This process takes one through a whole myriad of self discovery. It leads us in to our own demons and fears, it leads us through passions and desires, it leads us through clearing out all the cobwebs and dark corners of self and testing one on their Will of Acceptance…mainly Acceptance of Self.
To accept oneself fully, one must “submit and commit” to oneself fully and W/Holey. This also means accepting the Divinity that lies within. Accepting that one is worthy of this Divinity and Knowledge with which they are receiving. The more cobwebs that get cleared out, the brighter the Light Within is shone. But one must accept this Light to receive this W/Holey….again….submitting and committing oneself to the accept that they are “worthy” of this Light and Love…”Letting Go” of the cobwebs of the past, of the cobwebs of old and outdated beliefs, letting go of the fears and shadows and submitting & committing to yourself enough to know when it is time to Let Go.
When you submit & commit to yourself, you are also submitting and committing to your Path and Higher Self/Power. When you find you are worthy of letting go, worthy of the Divinity that lives within you, worthy of Loving yourself Unconditionally…it is then that you will be able to fully Accept, submit & commit yourself to another and to a Path of Partnership with another. These commitment are not to be taken lightly either…because if you fully submit and commit to another…you are also submitting and committing to work out their cobwebs with them as well. If someone submits & commits to you, like you are to them in a “W/Holey United” partnership….you are submitting and committing to “Walking their Path” as well and accepting and Loving Unconditionally. Are you ready to “take on” someone else’s cobwebs as well? Are you ready to Love them as Unconditionally as you Love yourself? Can you see yourself enough in that other Being to broach this commitment & submission in the manner that will bring you both a form of Higher Love & Peace?
If you have reached the level of not judging your own self for the cobwebs you find, are you ready to accept another’s cobwebs and not be the judge of those? This is also a major part of submitting and committing to self, when you start judging those in your life…you need to take a look in the mirror and see what it is you are Truly fearing in this. You need to take a look within yourself and see what it is inside you that bothers you about this and work past it. 9 times out of 10, our judgement of others comes from a our own fear within. If one has Truly submitted and committed to self, then this form of self-discovery will aid in your ability to Unconditionally Loving Self & Others as well. Truly submitting and committing is the awareness that it all lies within and it all begins & ends within.
No matter what form of Peace you are seeking, it first must begin with the submission and the commitment to Self. You must learn to look within for the answers with which you are seeking. You must learn that you can shut off the dark times and you can turn on the Light. You must learn that to understand another you must first understand yourself, because it is the understanding and loving of self that will aid in relationships the rest of the way.
Do yourself a favor and make a commitment to YourSelf of submission. Submission to the acceptance that you are who you are and without those cobwebs and shadows you wouldn’t be the person you are today or hold the lessons that you do today to get you through the rest of your life experiences. But the cobwebs aren’t needed anymore…because you hold the lessons and knowledge in your Heart. Allow your Heart Light to shine and clear the cobwebs so that you can see and hear the rest of what you need to, to carry on a W/Holey United partnership with yourself and others.
~In Peace, Love & Service Of~
Integration of Yin and Yang
The Integration of Yin and Yang
by Mystic Life
I am certain after the experiences I have had that there is a purpose to our life lessons. Many of my life lessons have revolved around learning the importance of my internal integration of yin and yang energy. Yin and yang energy is a concept which represents the dichotomies that exist in all, the "positive" and the "negative."
Much of the world believes that there is such a thing as "negative" in terms of there being an absolute wrongness of an act, or a word, or a behavior. However, when we understand our own freedom on a deep level, we feel completely liberated, no longer doubting ourselves or wondering if others know us better than we know ourselves.
Loving relationships seem in part to be about a process of becoming conscious of the games we play. When we become conscious of our games, we don't need to have dysfunctional relationships anymore. However, it seems as though most people are dying to know a love that is unconditional. And I do mean dying. The lack of unconditional love from ourselves and others actually harms the body. To experience love as based upon rigid conditions is destructive to our well-being.
